Sharing Stories

There’s a story. There was a housefly who lived on the leg of an elephant. She used to sit there all day. One day she got angry at the elephant and said, "I am going to leave this elephant!" Just when she decided to leave, the elephant moved a little and caused a lot of dust to rise up. The fly saw the dust and thought, "Oh, see, I have moved so much dust, that a storm is coming. Let it hit the elephant. He will suffer." Now the elephant is not even aware there was a fly sitting on his leg.

This is such ignorant talk saying, "I don't want to give my power to somebody." To whom will you give power? Do you have any power? What power do you have? You don't know what your mind is. You don't know how the mind works. You don't know how your mind acts, at what time, where it leads. It has only led you to so much misery again and again. There is no power at all in the mind. There is power only in the Divine. That is the only source of power. But our shell, our ego, our resistance, our fear makes a resistance, and the resistance in turn protects the fear, so one remains in a small shell. So there's nothing to be afraid of. Drop it.

If you know how to row a boat, you can row any boat. But if you don’t know how to row, changing boats isn't going to help.

Similarly, changing a relationship does not solve the issue. Sooner or later, you will be in the same situation in any other relationship.

Most people look elsewhere for a perfect relationship, but few look within themselves; at the place from where we relate. What is your relationship with yourself? Who are you to yourself?

People think, ‘Oh, I’m single. I’m so bored being by myself. I need a companion. I need a relationship.’ If you are so bored by your own company, think how much more boring you must be for someone else. And two people bored with themselves getting together, will completely bore each other!

If your relationship is based on personal need it may not last that long. Once the need is fulfilled, on a physical or on an emotional level, the mind will look for something else and go somewhere else. If your relationship is from a level of sharing, then it can last longer.

Thank you

Love 

Alan