Sharing- A Question about Loneliness

Q: I feel very lonely. I need someone to support me whom I can rely on, but no one is ready for full commitment. What do I do?

Sri Sri: Any companionship when it goes from a place of wanting and lack to contributing, is long lasting. You came into this world all alone. And when you go from here you are going to go alone. Don’t try to run away from loneliness. It is a blessing in disguise. This is a time to be centered. Push away everything around you. You will find that you’re the scintillating energy of the Universe. You are the center of the consciousness. You’re the ultimate Truth. This loneliness is only one step close to that.

Loneliness is because you want to grab something from outside. Trying to fill your loneliness, looking for a companion, anything outside is not going to work. Know that you are on this planet to give something and then pack up and leave. That’s it! You have come here to give something, take nothing from here. When you get into this knowledge, when you get into the core of existence you will never feel lonely at all. You will feel the consciousness around you is all life. Then everyone is your friend here. However they behave, it is immaterial. From your side, they are your friends. You become like a mother. The mother never minds whether the kid is crying or throwing pranks, or throwing tantrums... She doesn't mind if the baby is smiling or throwing tantrums, still she feels the baby is mine. You will feel so big, you feel that this whole Universe is mine, everybody is mine. And this is the way to get rid of loneliness. Not searching for someone who will match your mindset. It will match only for a while, because nature has made you so unique. If you see your thumbprints, each one of you have got a different thumb print. That itself shows that you are unique. You will find a partner who is very good and after, seven or thirty or forty years, you will feel like you were never together! You wonder how we could live together for forty years and then one day say we are so different, we don’t match each other!

Come on, wake up! Wake up and see. Don’t look for someone and something to fill your vacuum. There is a song from Kabir which says, ‘my beloved comes to me in my dream’. When you think this whole world is a dream, you shake hands with your beloved. Once you embrace your beloved, that is it. There is no more loneliness. No more loneliness anywhere, ever. This is the spiritual path. I am not against you having a relationship, a family, getting married. No, you can have your spouse, you can have your companion, but not from the space of wanting something from them. Imagine a partnership where you are content and you are only contributing to the other person. Such a relationship will last longer. So this way, sit and meditate, listen to bhajans, listen to songs. Your beloved is with you. You just have to look inward, that’s it. Once you find your beloved within you, inside, you find him or her everywhere in this creation.

Love and Gratitude

Better and Better

Alan